How does pressure show up in relationships, and why does it hinder pleasure, connection and arousal? How does pressure operate differently in new encounters vs long term relationships? What are some helpful tips to start turning the pressure valve down - both within the self and when engaging in intimacy with others? Repeat guest Dr. Aly answers all this and more. About our guest: Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. Dr. Aly is champion for others overcoming shame and deepening pleasure and helps her clients experience pleasurable sexual interactions and nourishing romantic relationships. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them. Dr. Aly invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love/intimacy Click here to sign up for Dr. Aly's upcoming Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Mastercourse Follow us on Tik Tok @shamelesssexpodcast! We just lost out own account and now have a new one. Follow us for entertaining and informative clips from episodes such as this one. Listen to the Holly Randall Unfiltered podcast here Learn more about our awesome Pleasure Podcast Network here Other links: Get 15% off your ultimate sexy holiday kit with code SHAMELESS at likeakitten.com/shameless Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com