Ian Kerner, PhD, joins us to talk about why he asks all of his clients the question, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex (also the title of his new book), and how this question helps uncover couple's repetitive sex scripts. He also shares tips on how to re-write old sex scripts for more sex and better intimacy, as well as ways to "turn off" to really turn on.  We also answer a sex question: My wife has never had an orgasm. How can I help her achieve one + open up more sexually?  Ian Kerner is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy, and working with individuals on a range of relational issues. He is also the New York Times bestselling author of She Comes First and many more, including his latest book So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex, helping couples achieve more intimacy and better sex. He is a Clinical Fellow of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists; certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (where he also sits on the board); the Society for Sex Therapy and Research; and the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. To learn more visit iankerner.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off delicious, organic, ready to eat meals with code SHAMELESS at sakara.com/shameless Get 15% off of some of our favorite sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com Buy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast