We welcome singer and actress, mother of 3, Miss Tonja Hartman who is an extra ordinary leader who has a passion for raising up people to make a difference in the entertainment industry to train up people to know God's word. Primarily teens and young adults because there is so much confusion out there on their direction in life. She tells us her life story and bravely talks about that she was sexually abused as a young girl by a male babysitter and by a family member and date raped by someone when she was a Senior in high school. She talks about how abusers make you think and feel that you are terrible and that you caused it and they make you believe the lie. We learn about her very specific encounter that changed her and she realized she had to live in God's word. Tonja talks about the sexual advances in the professional world and that she lost a job because she wouldn't buy into the advances from a boss. Tonja teaches us what the aftermath looks life after such devastating experiences. We are especially intrigued by Tonja's lesson about what God says about generational curses.She teaches us how she tries to not hold on too tight to her beautiful teenage daughter Ari and that we should not shelter our children too much where we don't allow them to experience pain.Tonja wants the little girl in her, the driven person to soar and shine how God created her to be and she loves the movie "Wonder woman". God has given her the drive to keepgoing even through the toughest times and she wants to make a difference and help others soar. Tonja gives us a great lesson on that the "me too" movement has gone too far and that people have forgotten common sense. We learn about sex trafficking being a huge issue in the entertainment industry. Tonja talks about some of the issues in some churches and how they fall short in helping struggling people particularly women going through a crisis. Tonja's passion is for people outside of the church. She tells us about a shocking story where a pastor supported her 1st husband who had a porn addiction, wasn't responsible as a husband and father and wasted all their money gambling, while she worked 50 to 60 hour weeks. The pastor actually asked her to submit herself to her husband even if that meant watching porn with him. We learn about her divorce, she went through a new church and how she ended up marrying a womanizer who was verbally and emotionally abusive, making her believe she was crazy. Her Mom hired a private investigator and they found a whole sack of porn that they brought to the pastor of this new church who got mad at her for even bringing it up. She had to go through a second divorce. Her and her boys had to go to counseling, they were so scarred from this experience. She says it has been a hell of a road but standing up to what is right and not being silent has been healing. Her family doesn't really want her to tell her story, because we make the victims of abuse believe they shouldn't stand up for it and the people that get protected in the end are the abusers. She is a believer in iron sharpens iron. We learn how she met her 3rd husband who she is in the middle of divorcing at this time. She tells us about losing her precious Mom to brain cancer, moving to California, getting pregnant with her daughter.While in California in less than a year she found out that her husband was having an affair which knocked the wind out of her. She didn't see it coming at all. It is a gripping story you don't want to miss. Tonja is a big believer in telling the truth at all times and that she told her cheating husband he had to admit to their teenage daughter that he was having an affair. Gabrielle and Marcella are 100% on Tonja's side, however Bernie full heartedly disagrees and this starts a fun, passionate discussion between our guest and cast. Don't miss this battle of opinions.https://www.instagram.com/tonjarenetexastola/https://www.facebook.com/tonjahartmanParty with Miss Polly segment: The role of shame about our sexuality Question of the Day segmentYou went on a first date and everything is great except your date licks every single finger. Dealbreaker?