In this episode we interview author, therapist and overall amazing human Ian Kerner, PhD, all about the power of pleasing the pussy first. He tells us why he thinks this is important plus gives us some tips and tricks along the way.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 11.  About our guest: Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist), is a nationally-recognized sex counselor and New York Times bestselling author of numerous books, including, She Comes First, which has been translated into more than a dozen languages and is considered a classic in the genre. Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with recent features in The Atlantic, the Economist and NPR amongst others and he contributes regularly to CNN. He is the co-Director of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Ian was born and raised in NYC, where he lives with his wife and two sons and their dogs, Oscar and Jitterbug. Esther Perel has said of him, “Dr. Ian Kerner is one of the most recognizable voices in clinical sex therapy.” To learn more visit iankerner.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want clinically proven science-backed multi-vitamins made from the best ingredients? Go to ritual.com/SHAMELESSSEX and get 10% off during your first 3 months  Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com